. the h.... word, it's such a mean word, so centered on the self, I didn't want to say it, let alone write it down, for a long time ... do you want that measured in years, or failed relationships, failed jobs, states of bankruptcy, lost children, lost friends, lost stuff .... lots and lots of lost stuff, some gets re-found [and then lost again] but most just 'hangs-around', blocking what might have been an otherwise successful life ....
... Ahh, but in whose eyes .... ?
...was I the 'totally-blind' former 'hippie' who was eventually seduced back into a society that 'spits-out' its adult members marching into retail store, after retail store, and spending 'time' there, and a 'whole-lot-else' .... so that we can live in 'matched-suburbs' with 'ticky-tacky' facades hiding more and more dysfunctional families ....
.... families composed of 0.75 of a 'parent', trying to bring up 2.25 children, .... my maths may sound a bit wrong at first take, but let's compare a two parent family, with a securely structured financial base, and then take the parents who work [combined] 2 plus jobs [to find the money they squandered when they were 'young-and-free', and the time spent out doing the 'big-girl', and 'big-boy' activities .... I'm guessing [based on what I did] that the children, of those adults, see their parents about 0.75 of the time they need to ... and with the single parent families, about 0.5 to 0.7, and if we perhaps look at the early stages of childhood, the time spent in the 'child-care-prisons', maybe 0.4 to 0.5 ..... and let's be generous, and average this in the period from birth to 16 y.o. ....
.... where are the families that allow their children time with a 'grand-parent' [who even have a non-estranged relationship with these people], or uncle/aunt, some-one the child can use to gain [even a trusted close friend/ do they exist anymore?] ....perspective,
.... does a child need this to allow a greater objectivity in their development, a more balanced focus for the child to see what all of this society is about ....?
.... Yes, there are a lot of contentious views here, and a lot of time could go into discussing them, but I only need to 'toss' these in, at this point, to break into the very well documented fact that we, [in our dis-connected communities, in our fractured society] are producing dysfunctional adults .... who, surprise, surprise, are coming from dysfunctional childhoods .....
.... and if the ADHD drugs, and the AMA approved mood blockers, enhancers, night and day tablets, and the juvenile prisons haven't worked [by 18 or 21 yrs. of age], then we know what will .... they can aspire to a 'housing-estate' where a lake and bike paths draws out the 'little-nuclear groups' in their designer clothes, on their designer bikes, ... from a house that's too big for a 'bloke-and-his-girl', and by the time there are 2-3 children, Mum and Dad are off 'working' to keep up with those 'cursed-Jones's' [who moved in quietly, with their three cars, and ....], unless you count the 0.75 parent ...!!, and if the truth be known, with their addictions to alcohol, and 'muti-media-gadgets' 'glued' into their ears, well these parents aren't probably there even that much .....
... so, as adults, we cope, ... we find a method of blocking the pain of 'reality', and escape into the 'psychosis' of 'un-real-dreams' ... built on premises without structured thought, or with bigger, and bigger 'bites-into-our-family-home-equity' .... because we 'need' our home re-furbished, [before the children start to bring home friends, old enough to take their visions back to describe round 'their' dinner tables] and we need a bigger BBQ area, [and BBQ!!] and the paving around the basket-ball ring ... doesn't look 'new' anymore ... and if we only 'knew' what 'pressure' we are 'bumping-down-the-line' to some parent of a child who 'can't-use-their-home-equity', ... because they're only .. renting !!!!
.... the simple word for what I'm describing is survival ... and individuals in all species face it 'head-to-head' every minute, of every day ....
...I'm just saying [IMO] we humans aren't doing it very well,
.... this story comes from a 'former-hoarder' ...who's stepped from his closet [hoarded it for 12 yrs 3 months], and stripped off [oldest acquired piece of clothing, 8 yrs 6 months, most recent, 5 yrs 2 months], and is about to re-claim his life ....
and who is re-membering, and redeeming my-self, in the process ......
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<< ....more soon, the flu bug is with me on the kitchen floor as I struggle to unwrap its 'icy-fingers' from around my throat, and peel its slimy carcase from inside my lungs where it had hidden its stinking, slimy body while it prepared an assault on 'me' ... I've brought in re-enforcements, pots and pots of honey laced lemon drinks, spiked with ginger, and garlic, and chilli, and I've swung them [with fully outstretched arms] at my head and chest .... OK, I now see I should have only targeted my chest, I am a bit 'dizzy' from that one that hit my left temple area ....but , 'whatever doesn't kill me does strengthen me' and I'm in the mood for a battle, so ...
... see you soon ... >>
